So did you hear that Lena Dunham wrote a new memoir The 28 year old Dunham is of course the media declared voice of her generation. She is a feminist icon. She is also the wunderkind creator of HBO s Girls which in case you ve missed it is a mediocre television show featuring confused naked largely Caucasian body parts flopping all over Brooklyn for no particular reason.
Over the past few years Dunham has been vexingly omnipresent cheerfully cruising the red carpet for her eight Emmy nominations clasping Golden Globe awards with a crazed look in her eyes pocketing a $3.6 million book advance hosting a particularly sanctimonious episode of Saturday Night Live hijacking the cover of Vogue and earning approximately 10 365 media stories per day. I don t want to scare you but she could be hiding in your closet right now.
So when her book Not That Kind of Girl A Young Woman Tells You What She s Learned hit stores this week somewhere back in the primitive reaches of my brain one endlessly optimistic neuron fired a valiant message over and over Oh whatever. Who on earth would buy this book People have things like Halloween and Ebola to worry about
Well blow me down and apparently don t take my stock market advice. As of Tuesday night Not That Kind of Girl which it should be noted is authored by a young woman who recently got a bowl cut exactly like Jim Carrey s in Dumb and Dumber on purpose and then posed naked towel wrapped chewing a birth control pill packet for a Planned Parenthood e mail enthusiastically comparing voting to doing Ecstasy hit No. 2 on Amazon. Yes this is actually happening. Let s discuss if only to combat a creeping sense of quiet existential despair.
A number of early reviews of Not That Kind of Girl have complained that Ms. Dunham is not deep enough or sincere enough. One reviewer clearly a fan actually complained that Dunham didn t share enough. After I slogged through exactly 36 references to various specific human vaginas in this book this critique struck me as just a bit off.
Most of the Dunham press coverage however assumes one key point Lena Dunham is a feminist heroine for our times. This is strange to me given that the obvious heart of Not That Kind of Girl at least to anyone who has basic reading comprehension skills and who is paying a remote amount of attention is this Lena Dunham is completely obsessed with run by and dependent on men.
Don t believe me Read the book. Well actually don t read the book. It s awful and it has worse sex scenes than an Ayn Rand novel which I honestly did not think was possible. It also contains a full chapter and I am not kidding devoted to Ms. Dunham s weight loss food diary and questionable obsessive calorie counts. Ladies We are better than this. Life is bigger than this I m serious
OK back to the men. Dunham spends the entirety of her book bouncing from awkward casual sexual encounter to horrible casual sexual encounter desperately searching for love in all the wrong places. Quickly it becomes painfully clear that Dunham believes a) sex is meaningless and b) a man will solve her problems which to put it charitably are legion self absorption dietary dysfunction obsessive compulsive disorder consistent attraction to jerks routine abuse of prescription drugs and a beloved New York artist father who paints like a half drunk Picasso cousin sentenced to life in a combination gynecologist s office/meth lab.
Wait a minute you might be saying especially if you re actually serious about women s empowerment. A man won t solve your deep seated issues. You need to address them yourself That is correct. I was reminded of this in high school in fact when my mom gave me a copy of Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives written by one crazed genius Dr. Laura Schlessinger.
Say what you will but unlike Not That Kind of Girl Dr. Laura s book is pretty brilliant centering on a simple thesis Women as Dr. Laura so eloquently puts it should not be just Wo Wo Wo on a Man. They should not in other words define themselves through their romantic relationships. This will make them crazy Dr. Laura argues and unhealthily dependent on men.
Lena Dunham has clearly not read this book for at the end of Not that Kind of Girl her conclusion centers on a man her newest boyfriend a hipster guitarist who has indeed solved her problems creating a new and lasting peace. I am not exaggerating. From the ending Stuff like this only happens to characters played by Jennifer Garner right ... He seems to be there without reservation. He pays attention. He listens. Yes but how about when existential angst strikes in the middle of the night He settles that. He helps you sleep.
It s kind of like the end of A Tale of Two Cities except there s no self sacrifice no introspection and it doesn t make any sense. But here s the good news for the man dependent Ms. Dunham The feminist in crowd won t be blackballing her anytime soon. She s got the woe is me act down cold.
There are still so many forces conspiring to tell women that our concerns are petty our opinions aren t needed that we lack the gravitas necessary for our stories to matter Dunham writes describing the chapters of her book as hopeful dispatches from the frontlines of that struggle.
If there is a sentence written in the history of the world that is less self aware please let me know. Meanwhile let us ponder those lines while Ms. Dunham counts the millions she s earned by writing what may be the most banal man obsessed and oblivious anti empowerment book I ve ever read.
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